3 Essential Tools for Healing Developmental Trauma

A Workshop Series for Therapists

ReParentive™ Therapy is a modality for working with chronic developmental trauma. Learn the significance and nuances of key concepts of ReParentive Therapy. These pillars of healing are essential to create healing in people who grew up in invalidating environments.

This series of mini workshops offers:

  • Quick access to the inner workings of ReParentive Therapy modality and tools
  • Get a feeling for who I am, my approach and my offerings
  • I’ll take you directly to what I see is at the essence of healing core beliefs
  • Learn what makes ReParentive Therapy such a highly-effective approach for working with developmental trauma

The three principles that we’ll focus on in this workshop series are:

Workshop 1: Self-Discovery Through Mindfulness

In the trauma world it’s widely agreed that mindfulness is a key element for healing developmental trauma. When we become mindful and can observe our experience, it facilitates integration at the level of the neocortex.

Even therapists who have their own meditation practices can benefit from learning how to teach their clients mindfulness as a tool to study their moment-to-moment experience.

If as a child, your client grew up with a volatile parent, it likely was not safe for them to have a sense of self. Instead, their sense of self was always in reaction to their parent. It wasn’t safe to exist independently.

In order to move through the world and thrive, your client will benefit greatly from learning to tune in to their desires, thoughts, feelings and sensations. When you teach your clients mindfulness, it creates a platform for self-discovery that they might never have had access to; it opens up new possibilities.

This workshop will not be held live. However, you can register and download the recording.

Workshop 2: Utilizing the Instrument of the Therapist

A key concept of ReParentive Therapy is co-regulation, something an ideal parent offers to their child. A grounded, regulated parent, can soothe their child until the child develops this capacity. However, clients who grew up with disregulated parents, did not receive this level of soothing or care and thus may get disregulated easily.

Many therapeutic modalities will ask “How do you feel when you’re with this client?” or look at countertransference to gain insight into the client’s experience. However, other modalities don’t address how you can take care of your own nervous system both in and out of session. Nor, do they support you to use your nervous system to gather information about the client.

In this workshop we’ll dive into some of how you can be in relationship with the client in a way that offers repair and embodies qualities that are antidotes to the wounding of your client’s past. In order to offer the client nervous system regulation, we start with our own nervous system.

We’ll explore critical concepts, tools and techniques for this population such as grounding, ongoing self-care practices, how to track for countertransference and how to avoid enactments often exhibited by clients who were raised in invalidating environments.

Workshop 3: Offering a Missing Experience

Clients who grew up in invalidating environments missed out on many critical elements in their developmental phase. For this reason, the ReParentive therapist continually wants to hone in on what didn’t happen in the clients’ early life. The therapist asks: how does this deficit show up in current life to limit the client’s experience of self and world?

“Missing experience” is a foundational principle of ReParentive Therapy, and derives from Hakomi Mindfulness-Centered Psychotherapy. The missing experience can take a variety of forms, in the way that it was lacking in the past and in the way that it gets delivered therapeutically.

One way of delivering a missing experience is in how the ReParentive Therapist embodies qualities that were missing in the parent and family of origin. In their way of being, the therapist offers an antidote to the client’s wounding, while supporting the client’s awareness of what they didn’t get in the past, and while allowing the client to recognize their old patterns. The client is then able to notice what they are available to receive and where they struggle to take in nourishment. Increasingly, the client takes in the missing experiences, begins to internalize them and expands their receptivity. As the client learns to take in the support of the therapist/reparative parent, they become ever more able to ReParent themselves, which is one of our ultimate goals.

Simply put: to support the client’s development, the therapist aims to help the client to:

  • See what they missed out on in the past
  • See how their beliefs about safety can block nourishment when it is available
  • Recognize when it’s available
  • Learn to let it in
  • Start to offer it to themself

In this workshop you’ll learn how this principle can guide your work and why it’s essential to support transformation in this population. Learn 10 of the most common missing experiences for people who grew up in invalidating environments.

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