Growing Ourselves Whole

ReParentive™ Therapy Group for Adults who have a Parent with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)

Growing up with a parent with Borderline Personality Disorder can be both difficult and isolating. Many children of parents with BPD never experienced the emotional stability, security and support they needed. If you had a parent with BPD or a history of trauma and emotional instability, this group may be especially helpful, particularly if you:

  • Want to explore and understand the impact of growing up with a parent with BPD

  • Are drawn to persons with histories of trauma or emotional dysregulation

  • Find yourself trying to accommodate others, even when it is not in your best interest

  • Have difficulty trusting yourself and others

  • Are confused about the validity of your needs

  • Have difficulty maintaining your personal boundaries

  • Long for understanding

  • Feel uncomfortable in “your own skin”

  • Perhaps you’ve tried many ways to heal and still feel stuck. That’s understandable — healing is a long and complex process. Come be in our circle and experience the support of others whose lives have also been touched by BPD.

This 10-week group will incorporate mindfulness, embodiment practices, experiential exercises, resource building, interpersonal sharing, as well as other therapeutic practices that support recovery from trauma. Participants will receive mirroring, support, as well as opportunities for integration and connection.

Each week’s theme relates to the experience of growing up with a parent with BPD. Themes include: boundaries, emotional volatility/unpredictability, resources, knowing what we want, understanding our parent’s history.

Participants have reported:

  • feeling at home in a group unlike ever before

  • integration of the theoretic with lived experience

  • a boost in their sense of confidence and competence

There’s more space in me for love because the shame is getting smaller.

— J. H.

I wanted for a long time to connect with other people who came from monstrous backgrounds, but who weren’t becoming monsters too. This group helped me find a peace my ancestors couldn’t envision.

— L. N., Oakland

I see past the trauma to the person I am.

— M.K., San Francisco

This work is an important step toward reversing patterns of intergenerational trauma.

This diverse and inclusive group is open to any resident of California.

10 Virtual 2 hour meetings

Upcoming dates will be announced here

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Pricing: $950 plus $200 intake session*

*Individual intake session with Pamela is required before joining the groupPlease inquire about sliding scale

Do You Suspect that You Grew Up in a Household with Patterns of Borderline Personality Disorder?

Take The Quiz!

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Borderline Personality Disorder is highly stigmatized and often goes undiagnosed. An official diagnosis can only be determined by a licensed clinician, through the use of assessment techniques. This quiz is not the equivalent of a psychological diagnosis. However, it can be useful to collect clues about your family of origin. This clarifying insight can help you get targeted support to help you heal.

What is Borderline Personality Disorder?

This is a complex and stigmatized diagnosis. For many reasons, it is often undiagnosed.

Please note: Admission into the therapy group does not amount to a diagnosis for your parent.

A diagnosis of BPD requires 5 of the following symptoms:

  • Fear of abandonment
  • Unstable relationships
  • Unclear or shifting self-image
  • Impulsive, self-destructive behaviors
  • Self-harm
  • Extreme emotional swings
  • Chronic feelings of emptiness
  • Emotional volatility, especially anger
  • Feeling suspicious or out of touch with reality

The symptoms must have been present since adolescence and can be caused by a combination of environmental and biological factors.

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