I am writing to express, though I imagine it may be of no surprise to you, that this group has already been profoundly impactful on my healing after just a few sessions.
Because my heart and system now know there is a place and a time each week to feel the heartbreak, be validated, and do the work of healing around this unique wound and loss, I have begun to feel lighter, more curious, more awake, and more open the rest of the week. It’s like my system has been given the spiritual permission and energy to live and love again.
Thank you for your humble and honest presence in these sessions – and also for the forethought and intention you have crafted into them. I can feel your care as the architect of this healing journey. It is an honor to be alongside you and the others in the group, who have experienced this attachment wounding from such a tender period in life.
My felt compassion for them has allowed me to give some of that to myself, which has also been invaluable in the process of letting go.
And finally, this group has also allowed me to cultivate honest empathy for (my ex partner), who has lived her life in deep pain and self-loathing. In understanding what is at the core of this wounding, I am able to release the pain that it caused me – and clinging that I have felt bound by.
I am sure there is much more feeling and growth to come, but I felt compelled to share my experience so far.
Thanks so much for leading us on this rich and beautiful path. I feel excited each week to see what comes – and most importantly, I feel well held in the experience of the group.
Hello, I’m Pamela.
Then you’re in the right place!
ReParentive™ Therapy is an active process of making up for past wrongs.
It provides the opportunity for the client to receive what they never got, without disempowering them, infantilizing, or creating problematic attachment or reenactment.
Reparentive™ Therapy is an intergenerational trauma healing model that encompasses three main elements:
In this model the therapist learns how to be a predictable and reliable source of support and to effectively, consistently, and non-defensively show up for relational interactions and provide repair.
The qualities that are cultivated in the therapist / group leader include transparency, humility, and authenticity.
The therapist needs to provide both empathic relational connection and clear, consistent boundaries, while simultaneously supporting the clients’ experience of autonomy and choice.
The therapist, unlike the parent with BPD, celebrates the clients’ success and reinforces their sense of agency and individuation.
An emphasis is placed on accepting imperfection with grace and compassion and highlighting the reality that human beings are messy and mistakes are a natural part of being human, especially in relationship!