Finally be the therapist that helps clients who have a parent with Borderline Personality Disorder*

*This group and training are applicable for all adult children of parents of BPD, NPD, cluster B personality disorders, complex developmental wounding/trauma, Dissociative Disorders (DDNOS), “emotionally immature parents,” and for anyone who grew up in an invalidating environment. 

30 CE credits available

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Most therapists are at a loss when they sense patterns of Borderline Personality Disorder in their client’s history or current character structure because they don’t know how to successfully work with them.

You can go from being scared of accepting clients with this wounding to confident that you have the key to unlocking lasting change for them.

Learn why you’re getting caught in a system with these clients. 

More importantly: learn how to help them reverse patterns of intergenerational trauma without getting caught in reenactments that lead to your burn out, frustration, and even resentment.

Every therapist who works with clients who were raised by a parent with BPD (or similar emotional deficits) knows that these types of clients:

  • Are suffering and often tormented by their interpersonal relationships, loneliness, and longing for healthy connection.
  • Have tried many approaches over the years, but have been unable to free themselves from internalized messages, low self-esteem, and dysfunctional relational patterns.
  • Are in danger of passing their wounding on to others, including their children. This wounding is often destined to repeat for multiple generations, as under-resourced parents unconsciously re-create the same activation and wounding to self, in their children. Unsafe, unpredictable home life, steeps young brains in the neurotoxins of anxiety. 
  • Act out their core wounding in multiple areas of their lives including work, friendships, and partnerships — creating ripples of discord that affect those in connection with them.
  • Limit their life choices, even in adulthood, in favor of being available to their parent.
  • Might struggle to make wise choices and to set boundaries in service of their own well being, over and above the attachment relationship, even if that relationship is harmful or not serving them.

It’s so clear that these types of clients need help.

But in sessions with these clients, it can feel impossible to know how to break through.

Here’s why:

Adult children of parents with Borderline Personality Disorder find it existentially threatening to thrive. Early on, they made unspoken contracts with their parent with BPD. Unbeknownst to them, their loyalty to their parent’s dysfunctional patterns became calcified and even now limits how the adult child moves through the world.  Repeatedly they have learned: —to not take up space, submitting their needs in favor of protecting the attachment  —to not have boundaries. —that disappointing someone is the worst thing in the world. —that getting it right is like an invisible moving target that’s impossible to hit.  —to live in a world of shame, blame, and assuming responsibility for things that aren’t their fault. Life’s a constant state of effort to please and a pervasive sense of being wrong.

These types of clients have tried many ways to heal, without much lasting success: 

  • Regular talk therapy
  • 12 step programs on codependency, and the like
  • Reading books
  • Trying to talk to friends (and fearing overwhelming them)
  • Trying to connect with siblings who aren’t on the same page because they’ve had different experiences within the family
Patterns of Borderline Personality Disorder (or similar developmental wounding) in your clients’ family of origin can create interpersonal strain and can negatively impact the therapeutic relationship. 

As a therapist, you want to be the one who can finally help your clients thrive.

But sessions with these types of clients haven't led to the results you want for your clients — and may have left you feeling drained.

  • Week after week, each session feels the same.
  • You have to drag yourself to sessions with these clients, which feels unfair to them.
  • Clients give up.
  • Clients project onto you. You feel pressure to be perfect for them.
  • Clients might be dependent on you or stuck trying to please you.
  • Clients might be self-reliant, and you don’t feel like you’re helping them to see a shift.
  • You might feel scared of your clients’ volatile emotions.
You might find that these are your most meaningful and challenging client relationships, because their material touches on your own challenges; their stuckness mirrors your own. Hence, you’re particularly prone to getting caught in enactments with them. 

Imagine:

  • Being able to help your clients break free after a lifetime of struggle.

  • Staying regulated in your own nervous system as you sit with clients with this wounding.

  • Being skilled at working relationally with a population who has strain around a parental figure.

  • Carving a niche for yourself as someone who successfully works with this population. It’s so rare — and so needed.

Pamela RosinHi, I’m Pamela Rosin, Marriage and Family Therapist.

It’s no surprise that I became a therapist. I’ve always been a personal growth junkie. I’ve been in therapy most of my life. Maybe it’s because I was wallowing or stuck or seeking maternal love in the form of a therapist. Go figure! Everything changed 15 years ago when a bodyworker handed me the book Understanding the Borderline Mother. I was shocked as I read it. How did Christine Ann Lawson, the author, manage to hide in my childhood home and capture it so accurately? Equipped with the term Borderline Personality Disorder, everything made sense. Maybe I wasn’t crazy.  Right away, I started a peer group and it was revolutionary. All those years in therapy, I hadn’t realized, there’s only so much you can get from a therapist offering empathy without divulging their own experience. In a group you can share stories and it’s different. I remember someone saying to the group, “What are you doing in my head? I thought I was the only one having these thoughts!” The group inspired me to become a therapist who could support this population. No one was offering groups for adult children of parents with BPD or similar emotional deficits. 

So I had to create it. 

I drew on a multitude of modalities and life experiences to create Growing Ourselves Whole — a group therapy experience for adult children of parents with BPD. I like to say, this group is my baby. I genuinely mean it. I’ve dedicated myself to healing this wounding in the world. I’m committed to reversing the intergenerational trauma of BPD in as many people as possible. 

I’ve created a gem; it’s nothing short of magic. Each time I offer the group, I’m astounded by the synergy of the people who come together. As group leader, I create a field of safety and love where people step forward with deep truths and take in each other’s care. I get to stand back and bask in the power of a proven curriculum, having offered it nine times. The structure is conducive to deep sharing, ah-ha moments, laughter, tears, growth. Members experience an end to their lifelong sense of isolation. Every week as I close the Zoom meeting, I exclaim “#*@$! YES!”

As I see all the unraveling that’s happening in the world, I know there’s no time to waste. People need this. They’ve needed it their whole lives. It doesn’t just impact them, but everyone and everything around them. 

According to Carl Buchheit, the Founder of NLP Marin:

“BPD sits behind and beneath about 80% of the pain in people’s lives. This is not a psychological observation. I am sure most psychologists would think this percentage is absurdly high. In my experience, it is accurate. Everyone deals with the effects of BPD patterning, either in themselves or in the behavior of the people they work with or relate with—or do anything with. There is no hyperbole in these sentences, alas.”

Experts on BPD and DBT who have contributed to the development of this program:

  • Justine Polevoy, MFT Certified Hakomi Psychotherapist, Certified Sensorimotor Psychotherapist
  • Christine Benvenuto, MFT Co-founder of Oakland DBT and Mindfulness Center, and psychedelic therapist 
  • David Fish, MFT DBT Center of Marin, Faculty of Hakomi Institute of CA

About your trainer

64 Successful Participants
164+ Instructional Hours
1,300+ Clinical Participation Hours
6+ Years of Targeted Therapeutic Support

Qualifications

  • Masters degree in Integral Counseling Psychology from California Institute of Integral Studies
  • Group Therapy Training Program The Psychotherapy Institute one-year training program offering an in-depth study of the theory and practice of group therapy facilitation.
  • ​Training in DBT skills: 6-week video course with Marsha Linehan, 8-week observation of a class at Oakland DBT and Mindfulness Center.
  • Brainspotting Trauma healing technique Level 1 & 2
  • Certified Hakomi Therapist
  • Assisted Hakomi Comprehensive Training 2012-2013 and Hakomi Graduate Level course at California Institute for Integral Studies.
  • Trained in ReCreation of Self. Assisted RCS trainings.
  • Trained in Trauma healing at Hakomi Institute: From Trauma to Dharma-A Mindfulness-based Trauma Therapy Training
  • Certificate in Relational Somatic Healing
  • Certified Advanced Relax and Renew Restorative Yoga Teacher by Judith Lasater
  • Trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples
  • Advanced Hakomi Couples training with Rob Fisher
Outstanding in her field

Pamela Rosin, MFT (she/her) helps clients move toward a sense of belonging, grounding, freedom, and comfort in their own skin. As a Certified Hakomi Therapist, Pamela utilizes experientially based modalities and a synergy of Buddhist and Somatic psychologies to cultivate healing. As a therapist, Pamela integrates her professional acting background, a decade as a bodyworker, and many years of teaching Shakespeare in prison.

As a teacher and group leader, Pamela draws from a multitude of experience in various educational and therapeutic arenas. She embodies the precepts of Reparentive Therapy; bringing relational, loving presence to support learning. Pamela’s creativity, ability to personalize the material, and emphasis on nervous system regulation, supports students’ access and integration of this sensitive and challenging topic.

A graduate of the Integral Counseling Psychology program at the California Institute of Integral Studies, Pamela’s therapeutic orientation has been influenced by the Eastern/Western blend provided at CIIS, traditional Freudian, psychodynamic, and transpersonal approaches, and by the many wise mentors and guides with whom she has traveled.

Pamela is a seasoned guide, dedicated to healing this wounding in herself and others. She has led Growing Ourselves Whole numerous times over the past few years.

"Pamela Rosin, MFT is a gifted therapist and teacher. Her humility, intelligence and humor make learning about these challenging topics approachable. She is kind, sensitive, and generous and holds a solid, heartfelt container for her clients and students. The group therapy model that she has developed to help adult children of personality disordered parents is groundbreaking and essential. Finally, an approach exists that includes a refined comprehension of the developmental wounding resulting from BPD parenting, coupled with a connected group model that truly supports relational healing. Her ability to synthesize material and approaches into a cohesive, effective approach and group healing model is finally here and each and every one of us as therapists and recovering souls, can benefit from what it has to offer."
Justine Melisande Polevoy
MFT #36954
"I have had several patients complete the group for people who are related to or connected intimately to someone with BPD or narcissism. One patient said to me, "I've already gotten my entire money's worth after just session-one of the group." They felt so validated and their long sense of being isolated and totally alone with their experiences shifted dramatically. I have seen my patients gain a totally new sense of perspective on their suffering, specifically that they are able to identify their internalized self-hatred and cruel inner voice as something that originates in their chaotic and traumatic childhood experiences rather than being signs of their true badness. I've seen my patients able to separate themselves more from these toxic inner dialogues and discover and increased ability to self-soothe, self-love and an increase in self-compassion. This is truly a pivotal experience for people who carry great suffering and damage from childhood. Anyone wanting to work with people who suffered from emotionally immature or abusive family's will gain tremendous experience in how to reach these patients and truly transform their healing process."
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Why Group is the Most Effective Therapy for Adult Children of Parents with BPD

Group is the ideal modality for this population, on account of the field of love that gets created, the contagion of ah-ha moments as clients share their insights, the mutual cheerleading that happens, and the overall end to the isolation and invalidation of a childhood riddled with blame and shame. Group becomes a reparative experience of family, as clients feel a sense of love, safety and belonging, perhaps for the first time ever.

Leading groups allows you to help many people at once. You can work more strategically, for fewer hours and serve more people, while making more money hourly.

As an added benefit, you’ll be healing your own heart, every time you sit in the circle of the group, with each bit of healing that you witness in your clients.

TRAIN IN REPARENTIVE THERAPY & DEVELOP VALUABLE TOOLS FOR YOUR PRACTICE

Growing Ourselves Whole is a structured, 10-week group therapy experience for adults with a parent with BPD. You’ll learn how to facilitate groups of 8 as you guide them to finally have breakthroughs around their core wounding.

All the hard work has been done for you

Phase 2 of the training offers all that you need to promote your group plus time tested techniques that get results. Not only that, you’ll be supported to offer your first group and make back your investment while you’re still in training.

Group participants wanted to share these words:

“There's more space in me for love because the shame is getting smaller.”
“I wanted for a long time to connect with other people who came from monstrous backgrounds, but who weren’t becoming monsters too. This group helped me find a peace my ancestors couldn’t envision.”
“I see past the trauma to the person I am.”

Get a Certificate in ReParentive™ Therapy (Phase 1) &
Learn to Lead Growing Ourselves Whole Groups (Phase 2)

What is ReParentive™ Therapy?

ReParentive™: the term is a hybrid of two therapeutic concepts: reparative (adj) and reparent (v) and includes the concept of reparations. This approach has roots in therapeutic modalities that prioritize embodiment, mindfulness, liberation, and social justice; it is non-hierarchical and non-pathologizing. 

ReParentive Therapy is an active process of making up for past wrongs. It provides the opportunity for the client to receive what they never got, without disempowering them, infantilizing, or creating problematic attachment or reenactment. The therapist acts as a repairing parent (thus the term), who can make reparations to the client’s child self and encourages the adult child to take in the available, safe nourishment so that they can begin to shift their internal sense of what is possible, and let the new options impact their sense of self. 

Reparentive Therapy is an intergenerational trauma healing model that encompasses three main elements: 1) an emphasis on the therapeutic relationship, 2) an emphasis on providing the group member/client with a missing experience, and 3) the use of the therapist’s own stable, regulated nervous system as an interactive, dyadic regulator of the group member/client’s nervous system, which supports the experience of secure attachment.

Reparentive Therapy requires the therapist to embody the characteristics and qualities that provide the adult child of a parent with Borderline Personality Disorder or with longstanding attachment issues, (emotional dysregulation, distress tolerance), with a missing, reparative, relational experience. In this model the therapist learns how to be a predictable and reliable source of support and to effectively, consistently, and non-defensively show up for relational interactions and provide repair. 

The qualities that are cultivated in the therapist / group leader include transparency, humility, and authenticity. The therapist needs to provide both empathic relational connection and clear, consistent boundaries, while simultaneously supporting the clients’ experience of autonomy and choice. The therapist, unlike the parent with BPD, celebrates the clients’ success and reinforces their sense of agency and individuation. An emphasis is placed on accepting imperfection with grace and compassion and highlighting the reality that human beings are messy and mistakes are a natural part of being human, especially in relationship!

What’s Included in the Training?

New format and pricing: Phase 1 Can be taken on its own

Immerse yourself in ReParentive Therapy. Learn instantly applicable skills that you can bring to your therapy practice, to care for your own nervous system, reduce burn out, and increase your awareness of countertransference. Deepen into your seat as therapist, and as a result, offer co-regulation to your clients.

ReParentive Therapy Professional Certificate Program

Phase 1 (3 months/45 hours worth of training)

Learn ReParentive Therapy skills and presence. Receive a certificate of completion at the end of the three months.   

Earn 30 CE’s

Through a mix of somatic psychotherapy techniques, psychoeducation, trauma healing approaches, expressive art and experiential exercises, group processes, etc, you’ll learn how to become an effective therapist for this population. 

You will be a participant in the ten-week Growing Ourselves Whole group so that you learn by experiencing it.  After each group session, you’ll have a chance to reflect on ReParentive Therapy techniques that you experienced in that session. (30 hours)

Your training also includes 10 didactic modules of 90 minutes each. (15 hours)

Receive a training manual, links to resources and access to recordings if you have to miss a session. 

Payment info: $2750

Not yet licensed as a therapist? Welcome! Launch  your practice with a solid foundation, a niche, and the support of a cohort and mentor. 

Training to Become a Therapy Group Leader

Phase 2 (3 Months/27 hours of training)

1 Day Intensive: Learn to promote your group, how to do an intake, how to determine right fit participants 

(24 hours worth of consultation)  

Learn to lead Growing Ourselves Whole, groups for adult children of parents with BPD, either in person or online.

You’ll get weekly consultation as you promote, screen clients, and offer your group.

Promotional materials and support: you’ll get marketing support in real time as you launch your own group in the fall of 2023.

Most importantly, and rather unique for a training: you’ll get group consultation with Pamela leading up to, during, and after your group.

Guides & handouts
  • A manual with the full 10-week curriculum, detailing the structure and themes of each session. Many elements are scripted out precisely. 
  • Intake forms, screening criteria, and training on how to do an intake.
  • Somatic resources toolkit. Learn a resource to teach each week of the group. 
  • Journaling prompts for each week.
  • Handouts for clients.
  • A feedback form to distribute at the end of your 10-week group.

What You’ll Learn

You’ll be learning reparentive therapy skills and have a therapeutic lens that you can apply immediately in your private practice with clients long before you launch your first group.

  • Handouts to support psychoeducation about Borderline Personality Disorder in language that your participants can understand. 
  • The modulation model and how to teach it to your group.
  • How to somatically resource yourself so that you can help clients regulate themselves too. Become an expert on your own nervous system so that you can detect activation before it takes over and reroutes you. 
  • How to create group agreements.
  • How to somatically track group members, as well as the emotional journey of the group 
  • Beyond basic group facilitation skills, you’ll learn to create a field of love. You’ll also learn to use structure to create safety, predictability, and containment. 
  • You’ll have access to instructional videos for how to lead guided visualizations and somatic resources. Learn the somatic tools and test their efficacy for yourself in your daily life so that you can teach them. 
  • Mindfulness skills–learn to lead the group into mindfulness.
  • How to set up experiential exercises including creative expression prompts and how to debrief these experiences with clients.
  • How to use the whiteboard or a google doc for a group brainstorm. 
  • Skills for leading a group both over Zoom and in person.
  • Anticipate challenges that may arise in your group. 
  • How to hold healthy boundaries with participants. Specific support around countertransference with this population.

More words from past group participants:

“It's been like medicine.”
“Pamela has a deep knowledge of the ways in which the brain is wired from BPD trauma. She knew how to explain the "why" without putting too much emphasis on how damaged we all felt. Her timing made me feel held, and heard, and that I would be ok.”

“As a professional working in a leadership capacity for high-risk, high-trauma fields (law enforcement), Pamela’s workshops have become a critical part of maintaining a caring presence in my work & a sense of personal safety. Growing up with a borderline parent, I was never taught boundaries, self-worth, self-love or self-care. I developed a mindset of victim blaming, as well as a learned ability to self-blame and self-minimize. Doing the work of healing from the trauma of a borderline parent is easily one of the most difficult things I’ve taken on in my life, because it felt like a betrayal. I began my journey in this therapy group, which showed me that I was not alone, and that loving myself & my parent does not have to be a zero-sum game. For me, Growing Ourselves Whole was my first inkling of a community that truly understands my experience as the child of borderline parent.”

Next Virtual Live Training

2023 Meeting Schedule

Phase 1

ReParentive Therapy Professional Certificate Program

(Intake plus 45 hours worth of training)

Individual intake meeting
TBD some time before March 10

Didactic & Group Sessions
March 10-May 26, 2023
Fridays, 1:30pm-4:30pm PST

Didactic Sessions
Saturdays, 9am-12pm
March 11, April 15, May 13

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Training to Become a Therapy Group Leader

Phase 2

(3 hours) 

Strategy session for promotion & screening for your group
June 30 1:30pm-4:30pm PST

(24 hours worth of consultation)

Weekly 2-hour consultation group for 12 weeks
September-November 2023

ReParentive Therapy Professional Certificate Program

Phase 1

  • Three-month online training
  • 10 live virtual 2-hour meetings. Every session will be a mixture of didactic, experiential, and skills. 20 hours of training
  • Two individual 30-minute consultations with Pamela
  • Pertinent articles and recommended book list
  • Homework and journaling prompts to integrate learning during the week
  • Supportive cohort of colleagues
  • You will receive a ReParentive Therapy Certificate upon completion of Phase 1. To achieve full certification you must complete Phases 2 & 3
Live Class Dates and Times:
10 virtual live meetings
Fridays 9/8-12/15 (no class on 10/27, 11/24)
9am-11am PST
Plus two 30 minute individual consultations with Pamela, to be scheduled during the program
(Phases 2 & 3 – details coming soon)

Your Investment:

ReParentive Therapy Professional Certificate Program

Phase 1

$1400

$1225 BIPOC Scholarship
Early Bird Rate Save 10% when you enroll by July 8  

Inquire about package price
for Phases 1 & 2

  1. Early Bird: paid in full $3600 due by December 10, 2022
  2. Standard: Tuition is $4000 Pay in full at time of enrollment (no later than January 10, 2023)
  3. Payment Plan: Make a $500 non-refundable enrollment deposit, along with a $1,000 tuition payment, ($1,500). Then pay $500/month over 5 months
  4. BIPOC Scholarship: $3300 ($700 off) paid in full at time of enrollment
  5. BIPOC Scholarship with Payment Plan: $3500 ($500 off)
    $500 non-refundable enrollment deposit, plus $1,000 tuition payment, ($1,500) then $400/month for 5 months

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Frequently Asked Questions 

Yes, there are 30 CE’s available for Phase 1. There’s a processing fee of $75

Yes, absolutely! This training can start your practice off with a solid foundation and clear direction for your niche as you launch as a therapist. 

Yes, if you’re shy and feeling called to this work, it is a great opportunity to breathe into your hesitation as you get support and a lot of structure every step of the way. I’ll hold your hand through all phases: during the training, as you promote your group, and then as you hold your group. You will not be alone as you do any of this.

Absolutely! In fact, Phase 2, the integration and launching phase, is the most important part of the training. Your weekly consultation group will meet before and during your 10-week group. 

 

You’ll leave the training equipped with all of the promotional materials that are designed with language that helps you reach your ideal clients for your group. You can get support around where best to promote your group to find people locally as well.

Phase 1 is comprised of 16 three-hour sessions plus an hour-long individual group intake session 

Midway between Phase 1 and 2 is a 3-hour strategy session for promoting and screening for your group


Phase 2 is comprised of 12 two-hour small group consultation sessions

I’ve found 8 is the ideal number for groups.  If you have fewer than 6 participants, I will encourage you to delay the start of your group.

I will support you with marketing ideas and will recommend that you hold off until you have a minimum of 6 participants. 

Video replays will be available for a limited time. It will be important that you watch the prior month’s video before the subsequent training. 



Full tuition cancellations made within 60 days or more in advance of the March 10 training start date will receive a 100% refund, less application & intake fees and $500 non-refundable deposit. Cancellations made 45 days in advance of the March 10 training start date will receive a 50% refund, less application & intake fees and $500 non-refundable deposit. Cancellations made within less than 45 days, will not receive a refund. 

Depending on local going rates for group therapy, you can generally charge in the range of $50-90/session. Your fee for the 10 week group can be $500-900, with room for a few sliding scale clients. With 8 participants, you can expect to gross anywhere from $4,000-7,000. If you offer the group three times per year, this amounts to as much as $21,000 increased annual income for you. The training pays for itself not after you finish, but during the training itself, while you offer your first group. 

From the first module, you’ll be learning Reparentive Therapy skills that will benefit you in your seat as therapist with all of your clients. Your nervous system may even feel more resourced at the end of your work day. 

 

  1. Early Bird: paid in full $3600 due by December 10, 2022
  2. Standard: Tuition is $3995 Pay in full at time of enrollment (no later than January 10, 2023)
  3. Payment Plan: Make a $500 non-refundable enrollment deposit, along with a $1,000 tuition payment, ($1,500) by January 10th. Finance the remaining $2394 over 5 months, with a $106 finance fee and pay the remaining $2500 over 5 months with a monthly payment of $500 per month
  4. BIPOC Scholarship: $500 off (exclusive of other discounts & scholarships) $3495 paid in full at time of enrollment (no later than January 10, 2023)
  5. BIPOC Scholarship with Payment Plan:
    $500 non-refundable enrollment deposit, plus $1,000 tuition payment, ($1,500) by January 10th, finance the remaining $1995 over 5 months, with a $106 Finance Fee and pay the remaining $2101 over 5 months on the 10th of each month with a monthly payment of $420 per month, (Final Payment on June 10th, 2023)

Payments are due on the 10th of the month and are made through by credit card through Stripe. 

Yes, the BIPOC Scholarship is $500 off. $3495 total 

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